6th of January, 2018.
Happy New Year to everyone ! I truly hope that this year will the best year you have ever had. For this post, I thought it would be fun to address my problems as an introvert in a “group conversation”. If you are an introvert too, let me know what your thoughts are on group conversations.
First of all let me be honest and admit that I am terrible at group conversations. Whether the group conversation is with family, friends, or strangers, I am terrible. I try and I persevere but I fail every time ( true story ). So let me tell you my experiences with group conversations.
Problem 1 : Waiting for a chance to speak.
The conversation starts and everything is great. I am listening intently and I am observing everyone, their facial expressions, emotions and then suddenly I realize I have something to contribute to the conversation. But wait, do I speak now or later ? Let me just wait for person A to finish what they have to say but then as soon as person A finishes speaking, person B starts talking. Okay let me wait for person B to finish. When person B finishes, I just utter a letter of the sentence and I am interrupted by person C. By the time I get a chance to speak, the topic has changed. Great.
Problem 2 : Not being loud enough for people to hear.
The funniest part is that even if I do actually speak, only the person closest to me can hear what I have to say. They listen to me, give me a sympathetic smile because they know how hard I am struggling and then they involve themselves into the group conversation.
Problem 3 : Who do I look at when I am talking ?
When I am talking, I get so overwhelmed because there are so many people staring at me. So who do I look at ? I just end up looking at the wall or just looking at one person. There are people who make eye contact with everyone while talking in a group. Oh well.
Problem 4 : The thoughts in my head are much more interesting.
In a group conversation, I just end up thinking because the thoughts in my head are much more interesting than what the people are talking about. Then when I am thinking, my head is in another direction and people realize that I am not involved in the conversation and they say, “Are you okay ?” LOL.
Problem 5 : I am invisible in a group conversation.
Not even joking about this one. If I were to merge into the the wall, no one would realize because I am so quiet during a group conversation. It’s actually funny.
I always think group conversations follow the principle of “survival of the fittest“. People have to really try their best to get their points across and interrupt others. But despite my inability of surviving in a group conversation, there are actually times when I enjoy listening to people’s input rather than talking. Besides if everyone was to speak in a group conversation, there would be no one listening, right ?
Hope you enjoyed this post. Feel free to tell me what you thought of this post in the comments section below.
I wanted to end with a positive quote. Hope this is encouraging to you.
Lots of Love,
A Shy Introvert.